There's an old saying that goes, "quitters never win and winners never quit." For those who have chosen to keep on keepin' on, this may be a fine mantra. Most of us, in fact, have been conditioned to believe that quitting, or giving up, is a horrible thing to do unless it pertains to something like drugs or junk food. So much time is spent encouraging people to not give up when things become too difficult. We tell each other, as well as ourselves, that we're strong, and we can get through anything if we just buckle down, remain determined and carry on. This kind of thought pattern can help us through times in our lives when quitting just isn't an option.
While perseverance is the key to overcoming trying times, sometimes throwing in the towel is actually the healthier way to go.
We already know that giving up things like smoking and drinking is healthy, but what about the relationships, jobs, projects, and goals that you find yourself working so hard to maintain? It's not easy to admit to others and even ourselves that we've quit anything. Maybe you stepped outside your comfort zone and decided to try a trendy new exercise class at the Y, but discovered that it wasn't your cuppa tea. Perhaps you took a job thinking that the experience would help further your career, but it turned out that it was simply not the right fit.
We tend to think less of ourselves when we ditch something because we've been taught to believe that in quitting, we didn't even bother trying. However, that pattern of thought can be changed with a little reconditioning. When something or someone in your life just isn't right for you, it can be okay to leave it behind because it means you're ridding yourself of an aspect of your life that could otherwise be harmful to your psyche or inhibit your personal growth.
So, remember, quitting isn't always bad, and it doesn't make a person weak-willed. Sometimes it takes the same amount of strength and backbone to hang it up as it does to see it through. Giving up can truly be a successful experience. If you want to explore your own difficulties with letting go or patterns of walking away too often, counseling can be a wonderful place to engage in such an exploration.
Maybe it's about time we rewrite that saying about how quitters never win.